Self-Regulation and Co-Regulation
Here at Project Play Therapy, we love helping our kids learn to regulate themselves. While we often talk about “self-regulation,” the reality is that most of our little ones need “co-regulation”– they need us, the adults in their lives, to join them in their efforts to regulate their brain, body, and emotions to meet the demands of the situation they’re in. We take inspiration from the book “The Whole Brain Child” by Dr. Daniel Siegel and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson. While the whole book is an excellent read, today we’re sharing some strategies from their book that we find helpful!
1. “Connect, then Redirect”
When we’re upset, we don’t think reasonably and rationally– and neither do our kids! Before we can reason with them, we need to connect by making them feel safe and comfortable. Try a gentle touch or hug to calm your child before trying to talk about what’s upsetting them.