The holiday season can be a time of excitement, connection, and joy — but it can also bring big changes in routine, new environments, and sensory overload for many kids. For neurodivergent children, such as those with autism, ADHD, or sensory processing differences, the holidays can feel overwhelming without the right supports in place.
At Project Play Therapy, we believe every child deserves to experience the magic of the season in ways that feel comfortable, safe, and meaningful to them. Here are some tips to help your family navigate the holidays with confidence and connection.
1. Keep Predictability in the Picture
Holiday schedules can be unpredictable — school breaks, visitors, travel, and new foods. Try creating a visual calendar or social story that outlines what’s coming up. Previewing events helps children know what to expect and gives them time to prepare for transitions.
💡 Therapist Tip: Use photos of family members, decorations, or special traditions in your visuals to make them more meaningful!
2. Prioritize Sensory Comfort
Holiday lights, music, crowds, and scents can be a sensory overload for many kids. Empower your child to advocate for their sensory needs by building in breaks, quiet zones, or wearing preferred clothing. Remember: There’s no “right” way to celebrate — comfort and connection matter most.
3. Focus on Connection, Not Compliance
Holidays often come with social expectations — saying thank you, hugging relatives, sitting through long meals. Instead of focusing on “manners,” focus on authentic connection. Allow your child to express gratitude or excitement in their own way. For example, if your child prefers waving instead of hugging, help family members understand that’s how they show love.
4. Honor Food Preferences and Routines
Holiday meals can be full of unfamiliar foods, which may cause stress for kids with sensory sensitivities or feeding challenges. It’s okay if your child prefers familiar foods during special gatherings. Pack their favorite snacks or make a “safe plate” so they can enjoy mealtime without pressure.
5. Build in Rest and Recovery Time
Downtime is essential for everyone — especially kids who expend a lot of energy navigating new environments and expectations. Balance busy gatherings with quiet, restorative moments like reading, drawing, or spending time outdoors. Think of rest as part of the plan, not an afterthought.
6. Celebrate Your Child’s Way
Every family’s holiday traditions are unique, and every child’s way of engaging in them is, too. Whether your child wants to decorate one ornament, skip the noisy parade, or open gifts in their own time, that’s okay.
Final Thoughts
This season, let’s celebrate neurodiversity by creating inclusive, flexible traditions that honor every child’s needs and strengths. With preparation, compassion, and a focus on connection, the holidays can become a time your whole family looks forward to — in your own special way.